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Balanced Parenting: Parenting with Love and Logic

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By Miniland

December 19, 2017

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Parenting is one of the most challenging tasks anyone can take on and unfortunately there isn’t a parenting 101 course or book that can help you do everything how you are supposed to.

Your parenting style largely depends on the type of personality that you have; some parents are what we call helicopter parents – who mainly parent with their hearts –  while others are more free-range parents – governed largely by their brains and logic.

No one parenting style is correct, and it can be incredibly hard to find the balance between love and logic when it comes to bringing up your kids. However, to produce well-rounded, successful children and adults – you need to ensure that you find the healthy middle point to parenting.

Here are some scenarios that will help to show you how to parent with love and logic to get the best of both sides.

Failure

No one likes to see their children fail, but sometimes it’s an unavoidable part of growing up and children need to fail in order to learn. Here are the different ways that a helicopter parent and a free-range parent might handle it differently:

Love: The helicopter parent will not want their child to fail under any circumstances, and thus if their child came to them at 8pm on a Sunday saying that their homework was undone and due tomorrow morning – this parent would let their child go to sleep and do their homework for them overnight.

Logic: A free-range parent believes that their child’s homework is their responsibility; if they haven’t finished it, they must stay up and do so, or tell the teacher on their own in the morning that it’s not done.

Striking a balance: Remember that sometimes it’s good for kids to fail. Remind your child that their homework is due on Monday, if they fail to do it then they must deal with the consequences. It’s important to help our children to success but they must also learn to take ownership of their own actions.

Micromanaging

Children are little and cute, and they often need our help. However, there is a fine balance between helping and doing everything for them. Here are the different ways that a helicopter parent and a free-range parent might handle it differently:

Love: Helicopter parents will do everything for their children, from cutting up their food, to packing school bags, covering books, tying shoes, and keeping the scissors as far away as possible.

Logic: Free-range parents teach their children how to cut their food, pack their bags, tie their laces, and use scissors. Once their children have been taught that they are on their own; if they can’t use scissors they’ll learn through mistakes and the same goes for most of life’s lessons.

Striking a balance: Understand that it’s completely fine to step in and help every now and then without crossing the line. Teach your children how to complete everyday tasks, but remember it’s likely they will need help on off days. Striking a balance here will help your child learn, grow, and take responsibility for getting things done.

Setting boundaries

Setting boundaries for your children is important to their development and responsibility. Here are the different ways that a helicopter parent and a free-range parent might handle it differently:

Love: A helicopter parent sets very strict boundaries; children can only play in fenced yards, can go on school trips where they can be chaperones, children must be in constant contact, and they are definitely not allowed anywhere near the stove.

Logic: A free-range parent is much more relaxed with their boundaries; they have no problem with children playing in unfenced yards, going on unaccompanied on school trips, and if they burn themselves after being warned about a hot stove – then they will simply learn their lesson.

Striking a balance: The key is adapting your boundaries to particular circumstances; don’t let your child play in the front yard if there is a busy highway in front of it, let your child go on school trips accompanied by other parents, and warn them extensively about the stove. It teaches your child about dangerous situations, and how they should also adjust their behavior to what they encounter.

It’s important to find the right balance when it comes to parenting, as it’s the best way to help your child develop the necessary skills for school and to become an emotionally balanced adult in the future.

At Miniland, we design educational toys that can help your child identify and manage their emotions properly and helps them to master their skills to handle the situations that they will face at school and as they grow. 

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