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The Do’s and Don’ts of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

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By Miniland

November 28, 2017

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We all want to raise our children right; this is especially true in the 21st century when we seem to be lacking in human compassion on a large scale. We want our children to be smart, kind, athletic, and driven.

Most important though is raising a child that is in tune with other people’s emotions; emotional intelligence will help them get through school with a lot of great friends and also set them up for a leadership role in their future career

In our last blog we spoke on the importance of emotional intelligence in children, but today we talk about how you can start to instil this essential skill in your little ones. How you can actually go about helping to develop them into passionate, emotionally intelligent beings that care greatly about the world.

Here are our do’s and don’ts for raising emotionally intelligent children:

Do look at negative emotions as an opportunity

Children throw tantrums and they throw them pretty often. Instead of getting angry, upset and shouting – use it as an opportunity to connect with your child and talk about what they are going through. By communicating with empathy you will begin to form a greater connection with your child who will be happier to talk to you and share their experiences, which in turn can help you to understand them and assist them in future.

Don’t punish your child for being emotional

The worst thing you can do when your child is being emotional is to scold or punish them. This only leads to them bottling their emotions due to fear and this can have serious psychological consequences for the future. By disregarding or acting out to their emotions you are sending a message that expressing emotions is wrong and this could stay with them throughout adulthood.

Do assist your child to identify their emotions

Children feel a lot of emotions, and the biggest problem is that they don’t know what they are feeling or why they are feeling it. Use emotional intelligence training games to teach them all about their emotions. What are these emotions called? What do they look like? What kind of situation makes them experience these emotions? These are just some of the questions that you need to help your child to understand and answer.

Don’t get frustrated or pass judgement

Children can say some pretty unacceptable things, and sometimes we want to react in an equally unacceptable manner. But remember that you are setting an example for your children and they will copy what they see. If your child is acting out, take a deep breath, try to understand what they are going through and help them with solving it.

Do set limits

It’s important to let children know that all emotions are acceptable, but that not all behaviors are. Your child does need some limits set, and if they start to act unacceptable emotionally - get them to take some time out. Then sit them down, explain the situation to them and get them to come up with alternative ways that they can react to a similar situation. This helps your kid understand behaviors and increase their self-awareness on how they manage it.

Don’t forget to help them learn and grow

At a young age your child doesn’t possess the skills to confidently manage their emotions just yet, however don’t forget that with your help they can certainly learn. Children need a listening ear and someone to teach them how to competently manage their emotions.

Educational games are a great way to get your child to learn about proper emotional management skills and can help to hone their emotional intelligence. Our Miniland Emotions Board is the perfect educational game and has been designed specifically to help children learn about and identify emotion – no matter how young they are. Contact us for more information.

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